Parenting Training Course Outline - RealLoveParents.com

The Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training

Introduction, Step One

COURSE OUTLINE

You will develop the skills to raise children who are loved, loving and responsible.

Here are the course chapters so that you can make sure the program is right for you.

FREE LESSON, CHAPTER ZERO: 1 hour, 25 minutes

How to STOP All Whining and HEAL All Wounds

  • Do you want to be a real parent or control a behavior?
  • Parenting is lovingandteaching, which I will be modeling for you. I will stay with you while you learn how to be an effective parent. You won't be doing this alone.
  • How to implement “no whining” and how that relates to all behaviors.
  • The key to parenting is YOU being loving, and YOU being consistent. Real Love defined.
  • All unproductive behaviors come from the “I don’t love you” wound.
  • Whining is related to all the other behaviors.
  • Children continue behaviors only if they are rewarded for them.
  • How you can feel loved, be loving, responsible = happiness
CHAPTER ONE: 5 hours, 35 minutes

The Need for Real Love, and Living Without It

  • You don’t know how to love your children unconditionally because you were not taught how.
  • Learning how to parent is the most important job in the world, and quite a journey. Let's get started.
  • The most powerful and lasting experiences of life are during early childhood. That applies to you, too.
  • Example of mother, Amanda, responding to two arguing children.
  • You’re missing the root source of all childhood problems.
  • You must interpret what children need from their behavior, not words—drowning metaphor.
  • The moment we’re irritated, children hear only “I don’t love you”
  • The “I don’t love you wound” causes all other problems, including Post-Childhood Stress Disorder
  • You can learn to love and help your children.
  • You can learn to make real choices instead of just reacting. 
CHAPTER TWO: 4 hours, 30 minutes

How To Find Real Love

  • You have to find love before giving it, and we can’t love ourselves.
  • You were TAUGHT who you are and how the world is, and often it was wrong.
  • You were loved less when you didn’t behave in ways other people didn’t like.
  • You MUST find love, and learn how to receive it and love others unconditionally: (1) Original unlovable message was wrong; (2) remember times you have felt loved; (3) remember a divine love; (4) I love you; (5) find love from others.
  • Truth-seen-accepted-loved
  • Where do you find love? (1) Usually not present friends; (2) rarely family; (3) never children; (4) from others.
  • What are the usual reactions to truth telling? Confusion, argument, interest.
  • Examples of telling the truth about yourself to other people.
  • Many resources for finding love in RealLove.com and RealLoveParents.com
  • Getting & Protecting Behaviors
  • Example of stopping conflict with love
  • Three Primary Responsibilities of a Parent
  • Epigenetics
CHAPTER THREE: 4 hours, 40 minutes

How We Behave without Real Love

  • It is unavoidable that your children suffer as you parent without Real Love.
  • Your inability to parent with Real Love is NOT your fault.
  • But it is your responsibility to change what you do now with what you learn.
  • You can learn to understand the meaning of your children’s behavior, and as you see their pain, your impatience and anger transform into compassion.
  • Lack of love leads to pain, which demonstrates as emptiness and fear, and then follow all the Getting and Protecting Behaviors, which combine to explain all your children’s behaviors.
  • Children use Getting and Protecting Behaviors to find the Imitation Love that replaces Real Love. They MUST medicate their pain.
  • Whining and anger show the relationship between pain, Getting and Protecting Behaviors, and Imitation Love.
  • By finding Real Love, and changing the judgments in your life, you can eliminate the Getting and Protecting Behaviors that plague you and your children.
CHAPTER FOUR: 4 hours, 20 minutes

The Cause of All Unhappy Behaviors

  • All childhood problems are rooted in pain, and then they respond predictably.
  • Cutting benefits: expresses pain physically, decreases confusion, distracts, feel alive, illusion power, attention, self-blame, anger, cry help
  • Relation of cutting to Getting & Protecting Behaviors, the power of understanding.
  • Lack of responsibility, withdrawal/depression (responsibility related to all 7).
  • Addictions to screens: phones, video games
  • No love ➝ Pain ➝ Decrease pain ➝ Addiction
  • Addictions to alcohol, drugs, porn
  • Adult children at home
CHAPTER FIVE: 3 hours, 15 minutes

No More Anger

  • You promised yourself to make your children happy, and yet you get angry at them.
  • Anger = “I don’t love you” and always hurts them.
  • Every time you’re angry, you’re wrong, so You Will Never Express Anger at a Child.
  • You get angry at your children because you expect them to love you, which they can’t.
  • No one ever makes you angry. It’s a choice you make and one you can learn not to make.
  • Five Ways to Respond to Anger
  • Examples of lovingandteaching your children without anger.
CHAPTER SIX: 3 hours, 30 minutes

First Truth Telling

  • The reasons to tell the truth about yourself to your children.
  • Example of The First Loving and Teaching, which begins to change everything.
  • How to continue with loving and teaching after the First Truth Telling.
  • How to change your judgments, which changes everything else.
  • Examples of changing the lies you tell your children.
CHAPTER SEVEN: 8 hours, 35 minutes

LovingandTeaching, Part 1

  • Loving and teaching is your JOB. It gives children the power to choose love and happiness, not react pain.
  • The primary goal of family is happiness, so all behaviors interfering with that must be eliminated.
  • You must stop all wounding with NO tolerance for anger, whining, teasing, lying, withdrawal.
  • Many examples of how to deal with wounding behaviors.
  • Practical examples of how to loveandteach a child. How to really listen.
  • Teaching children who they are, and how to choose the use of their gifts.
  • The effects of praise and criticism, positive feedback vs praise.
  • The use of consequences, bedtime.
CHAPTER EIGHT: 7 hours

More LovingandTeaching, Part 2

  • Screen addiction: its utter devastation, and how we can respond to it in children.
  • Video games (same): harmful effects and how you can help your children.
  • The Age of Entitlement: how it happened, effects on everything else, and treatment.
  • ADHD. Over-diagnosis, characteristics are the same as response to pain; treatment without meds.
  • How to love your children—what it looks like.
  • Responsibility. Why your children lack it, and how to teach it.
  • Addictions to alcohol, drugs, porn, early sex, and how to loveandteach children.
CHAPTER NINE: 2 hours

LovingandTeaching, Part 3

  • The seduction of praise, and how it—and every other Imitation of love—fails us.
  • Examples of loving, teaching, and consequences.
  • How we give up on treating pain and just withdraw: depression, suicide, self-harming.
  • Positive consequences
  • Teaching your children how to be who they really are.
  • Learning to judge yourself and your children differently.
  • Joy
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