Does Your Child Have an Eating Disorder? - Real Love Parents
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How You Can Help Your Child Overcome an Eating Disorder

In the video below I'm going to teach you:

  1. The REAL reason your child has an eating disorder (and it's not what you think).
  2. Why you just can't seem to help him or her be happy, no matter what you do.
  3. What you can do to ELIMINATE—not just manage—the self destruction. Really.
  4. How you can replace the anxiety and eating disorders with genuine peace and happiness in your child.

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Eating Disorders

Over the years, many conditions have been included in the term “eating disorder,” including: 

  • Anorexia 
  • Bulimia 
  • Exercise bulimia 
  • Binge eating 
  • Many other forms, less common 

A harmful eating habit is NEVER an isolated condition. It is always an expression of severe emotional pain, and other behaviors are inevitably involved: depression, personality disorders, impaired relationships, and more. 

Do You Have a Child with an Eating Disorder?

Look for the Signs.

Children and teenagers almost never seek help for their eating disorder, so it is up to you as a parent to look for the signs. What are the signs?

Ask yourself the following questions without flinching from the answers:  

  • Have you seen a dramatic weight loss in your child or teen? 
  • Have you compared multiple photos from the present to those of a year or two ago—preferably those in a bathing suit, or high-resolution close-ups? 
  • Do they have poor self-esteem, saying things like, “I’m just a loser”?  
  • Does your child dress in layers to hide weight loss or to stay warm? 
  • Have you seen recent mood changes like depression or anxiety?
  • Do they complain of feeling cold more than other people do? 
  • Do you know the signs of childhood depression? Or teenage depression? 
  • Is he or she preoccupied with weight, food, calories, fat grams, and dieting?
  • Do they spend a lot of time alone?
  • Do they make frequent comments about feeling “fat” despite weight loss?
  • Have you noticed a fear of making decisions? These children and teenagers often are paralyzed with a fear of making decisions or by a generalized anxiety that they can’t even put their finger on.  
  • Does she deny feeling hungry, especially at mealtimes?
  • Do they worry? This is a big one, so I’ll repeat it: Does your child just have a look of worry on his or her face much of the time? There might be words, there might not.
  • Do they move food around on the plate and delay actually swallowing, so that they have eaten little by the end of the meal?  
  • Do they have to do a job—or even play a game—perfectly, because they can’t live with making mistakes? 
  • Does she maintain an excessive, rigid exercise regimen – despite weather, fatigue, illness, or injury?
  • Does she tend to control the environment around her?
  • You might see more than usual feelings of guilt or worthlessness—perhaps expressed in the common phrase, “I can’t do anything right.”
  • You might sense pessimism, that nothing works out for them. You might hear, “Why try?” 
  • Have you asked your dentist specifically to look for any signs of unusual wear on your child’s teeth?  
  • Do you see their uneasiness being around other people? Do they avoid gatherings?  
  • You might hear them talk about how bad things are in the world, or in his or her own life.  
  • Do they talk often about friends or peers who are depressed, anxious, or suicidal? 
  • Do they feel pressured to take on greater and greater burdens, until the stress just crushes them? 
  • Do you hear about physical symptoms, like stomach cramps, constipation, loss of menstruation, dizziness, sleep problems?  
  • Do you see dry skin? 
  • Do you see an inability to concentrate

The Serious Nature of Eating Disorders

You MUST look for the signs, because without close attention from observant parents, many of these children and teens come across as “normal” kids who are just “finding themselves.”

Without a proper diagnosis, these kids don’t get help, and their problems multiply in school, relationships, and careers.

The eating disorder itself also tends to worsen over time. They don’t just “grow out of it,” and it can be fatal.  

Suppose you have seen the signs above, or you already know that your child has an eating disorder. Do you feel confused and helpless?

Are you frustrated at the hours of talking to your child, the visits to the therapist, perhaps in-patient treatment?

And it’s all accompanied by your blaming yourself for the obvious misery. Are you not tired of it?

Are you not desperate to help your child? 

There IS a Solution—How to Help a Child with an Eating Disorder

I'm here to tell you that there IS a solution, and we’re not talking about controlling or minimizing the symptoms. That is not nearly enough.

We’re talking about a real transformation where your child becomes truly happy, fulfilled, responsible, and, well, a human being again. In most cases, what you get is a child much happier than they were before they began to fixate on food and body image.

Welcome to the answers you've been hoping for.

For a long time now, you’ve been looking for ways to help your child. I greatly admire what you’re doing right now. You’re looking for answers, you’re trying to love and help your child, which is way more than most parents do. And finally, you’re in the right place.

You've Been Desperately Looking for Help with Your Angry Child

It’s like you’ve been paddling around in the middle of the ocean, desperately looking for help, and now—almost unbelievably—it’s here. This is the ship you’ve been looking for.

How could I possibly make such an extravagant promise? Because I KNOW how to teach parents how to help their children who are hurting themselves with the way they see and respond to food. What I teach has been used by uncounted THOUSANDS of parents, and it works CONSISTENTLY.

I’m not trying to sell you something here that we’re GOING to do. You don’t have to wait. The training begins right now. In the next few seconds, I’ll be teaching you things about your children and yourselves that you’ve never known.

What a relief to know that right now you’re exactly where you’ve wanted to be. You can learn what you need to learn.

Finally, you can feel encouraged. You can feel hope. You can help your child. And I’m going to help you do that.

Your Child Has an Eating Disorder,

and You Want to Do Something About It

You would not be here unless two things were true: 

(1) you have a child who has an unhealthy relationship with food, 


(2) you care enough to do something about it. 

I know you’ve tried to change things: You’ve talked and lectured. You’ve watched their every move. You’ve read books and tried programs. You’ve begged and nagged. Maybe you’ve taken them to counseling, maybe in-patient treatment. But your child’s pattern with food persists. And you’re frustrated and tired.

You’ve been looking for something that works, and here it is: principles that have proven to work hundreds of thousands of times all over the world. If parents are thoroughly committed to learning and practicing what I’m going to share with you, predictably I see children abandon their fixation on food. Instead they become happy—even after everything else has failed. You become happy too.

It is not hopeless.

I’m here to help you, and I’ll be using the insight and experience of counseling with thousands of parents, and from writing 20 books and endless articles on the subject, as well as appearing on 1600 radio and television shows and presenting seminars all around the world—and much more.

You are about to change the world around you, and you don’t have to do it alone, which is miserable and frustrating. You’ve already proven that with your own experience.

What You Will Learn That You Don’t Already Know 

So now the question that has to be on your mind: what am I going to teach you about childhood or teenage eating disorders that you don’t already know?

What am I going to say that you haven’t already read in a parenting book or heard from a program somewhere?

This is going to be revolutionary for you to hear, so slow down your brain and listen with your soul: What does a child NEED more than anything else? After food, water, and air, the answer is SO obvious, and yet we keep missing it—over and over.

Father holding a baby

To see the answer, let’s start with an infant. When an infant cries—other than from obvious physical pain—what does he want? You already know, because you just pick him up. You’re pretty smart. You already know that every child wants to feel cared for. Every child wants to feel LOVED. 

Happy baby grinning.

Picking them up and holding them is just a demonstration of that. And if you’re genuine in caring about them, they FEEL it.

But infants are relatively easy to love. They smile and melt your heart, make cute little noises, and laugh in ways we never hear anywhere else. They’re adorable. 

child crying in car

But when they get older, they learn to spill things, make messes, ferociously say NO when you tell them what to do, scream in their car seat, fight with their siblings, refuse to listen to you, say ugly and hateful things to you and other people . . . and sometimes they give up their fight with the world and turn inward to fixate on food, which is just a way of temporarily numbing their pain.

Girl with eating disorder refuses to eat in the cafeteria.

They get a LOT harder to love, and when that happens, we really don’t know what to do. Usually we try to control their behavior—and we might even temporarily succeed—but it doesn’t last, and we end up with kids who are still depressed and unhappy. We’re not so happy either.

Loving Your Children Unconditionally

Let me say this another way:

If our children become more difficult to love as their behavior changes, that proves we don’t know how to love them UNCONDITIONALLY.

If we love them unconditionally, we’d love them no matter what.

But if loving them becomes more difficult when they refuse to eat or make themselves vomit, for example, and keep using harmful behaviors—our love is conditional.

Unconditional love or Real Love means caring about another person without wanting anything from then in return, but we DO expect something in return for the “love” we give our children: respect, cooperation, gratitude, and some degree of reasonable and cooperative behavior, which does not include anorexia, bulimia, or other related problems.

The Real Effect of Anger and Disappointment

Now more about unconditional love: That kind of love would mean that our love would not be affected by what they do. That’s what unconditional love means.

But we really don’t know how to do that. How do I know? We PROVE it every time we become angry, or disappointed, or impatient, or irritated at them. Our anger and disappointment and frustration are undeniable PROOF that our love is not unconditional.

Deep inside, you know that what I’m saying is true, but let me demonstrate further: When other people are angry at YOU, do YOU like it? NO, you don’t. Not ever. Nobody does. When other people are angry at us, or when we’re angry at other people, we’re all saying, “Look at what you did to ME, or failed to do FOR ME.”

In anger, we’re focused on OURSELVES—Me-Me-Me—and in that moment other people—notably our children—hear only four words, “I don’t love you.” When we’re angry, we’re far too occupied with ourselves to unconditionally love another person.  

I repeat:

Anger= I don't love you.

I promise you that this is true.

No, we don’t MEAN to say that, but what else COULD people hear while our words, tone, and behavior are screaming ME-ME-ME? “I don’t love you” is what YOU hear and FEEL when people are angry at you—think about it honestly—and it’s what our children hear and feel when we’re angry at them.

And sometimes they respond to their emotional pain and self-loathing by inflicting injury upon themselves in the way they eat.  

Again, we do NOT mean to do this. We do not mean to hurt our children.

But it was inevitable, because WE were not loved unconditionally—which means being consistently loved without disappointment or anger. We were not loved freely, without conditions—so how could we possibly have learned how to unconditionally love our own children? IMPOSSIBLE.

Nobody is to blame. Our ignorance of Real Love simply perpetuated over generations. We don’t know how to love unconditionally because we’ve never seen it or felt it with any consistency.

Childhood and Teenage Eating Disorders are Reactions to Not Being Loved Unconditionally

For emphasis, I’m going to say all this in a slightly different way:

When children behave badly—when they have an unhealthy way of using food, for example—it is almost always a reaction to them not feeling loved unconditionally. They do not feel loved with no disappointment, irritation, frustration, or anger.  

This could sound discouraging, even bleak. In some ways it IS bleak. Look at the world—at the utter obsession with things that are distractions from our pain, from our not feeling loved: like endless entertainment, addiction to electronics, anger, controlling people, drugs, alcohol, sex, and on and on.

THERE is the proof—in our addiction to all those behaviors—that overall we do not know how to love people unconditionally. If we did, and I speak here with vast experience, these behaviors would not exist.

Children and Teenagers Who are Loved Unconditionally Don't Have Eating Disorders

I’ve been teaching unconditional love now for so many years to so many parents that I can tell you this with complete certainty: When a child truly feels loved unconditionally, he or she DOES NOT need the artificial control or pain relief of starving, purging, or binging.

Instead they’re HAPPY—and responsible, and have all those qualities you wish they had.

With sufficient love, there is simply no NEED for kids to use food in an unhealthy way, or have low self-esteem, or otherwise behave badly. Happy people don’t behave badly—eating disorders being just one example. Period. Full stop.

It seems almost like this statement is too broad, too much. It’s not.

Why You're Not succeeding in Helping Your Children with their Eating Disorder and other Self-Harming Behaviors

How many times have you wondered why a child isn’t hearing what you’re saying? There’s an answer, and here it is: Because when you’re irritated, your child hears only “I don’t love you,” and that is so devastating, that he or she hears none of the rest of the content of what you say.

So THAT is what I'll be teaching you:

How to LOVE your children unconditionally,

which then gives them a REASON to LISTEN to you.

If you love them unconditionally, they can HEAR you —what you’re really saying—because they’re not distracted by their fear, not blinded and deafened by the “I don’t love you” message. Then it becomes possible for you to teach them anything—like how to be loving and responsible themselves.

And if they have that powerful trifecta—they feel loved, and they are loving and responsiblethey are guaranteed to be happy, which is the ultimate goal for any parent, or, frankly, any person.

Your Children Can Learn to Be Happy

Your children can learn that being happy is way more fulfilling than numbing their pain or gaining brief moments of control, which they experience with eating disorders.  

Take my hand, and we’ll talk about what you can do—and how I will support you. It will almost be like starting over in parenting. You’re going to LEARN how to be a real parent, and your child will learn the lessons of life that will benefit him or her for the rest of their lives.

If you implement what you learn here, and if you do it consistently, you simply will not believe the differences you’ll see in your child, and in you, and in your family.

Imagine it: 

no more starving and throwing up,

no more lying about food intake, 

no more hiding their body,

no more sadness,

no more withdrawal from the family,

no more loss of interest in everything,

no more expressions of futility and giving up,

no more ugly words,

no more tension in the family.

It’s astonishing to see and to feel.

Our children are not bad. We’re not bad. 

We just have not known how to love and teach them.

Loving and Teaching Eliminates Eating Disorders in Children

What we’re doing to help our kids with their anger IS NOT WORKING.

Loving and teaching them does.

Rarely is it too late to change whatever unproductive behaviors you’re dealing with, not if you’re really willing to learn and to apply these principles to the interactions with your child. I can promise you, learning how to be a parent is WORTH IT.

You’re about to learn how to ELIMINATE the the destructive behaviors around food that are hurting your children and making you crazy. Really.  

I make you another promise:

Learning to be a loving, effective parent is EASIER than everything else you’ve done as a parent.

Transforming, Not Managing Your Children

We’re really going to get into this. This is not a casual effort. We’re not looking to make your children more manageable. That’s not even close to being enough.

Our mission is to help you to become a powerful and effective parent, and to help your child feel loved, and to be loving, responsible, and genuinely happy. It’s a transformation.

If you ARE truly committed to learning how to parent, I’M fully committed to teach you, and I will bring resources to the table you never thought about. The rewards are spectacular—as we have seen in uncounted thousands of families.

There is not a single thing you’ll ever do that will ring through the ages more powerfully than being a loving and effective parent.

You can do this, so let’s learn some more. 

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Dr. Greg Baer has written and produced more than twenty books, CDs, and DVDs on the subjects of unconditional love (Real Love), relationships, dating, marriage, parenting, conflict resolution and rehabilitation, which have been translated into many languages and sold to millions worldwide. He is considered an international expert on these subjects.

He counsels individuals, couples, families, and corporations from all over the world.

He trains psychologists, psychiatrists, marriage therapists, and coaches worldwide who have discovered that traditional therapy is grossly ineffective. He teaches them how they can make a real and lasting difference in the individual happiness of their clients and in the ability of their clients to participate in fulfilling relationships.

He is the Founder of the Real Love Company, a 501(C)(3)  non-profit organization dedicated to the promotion of healthy relationships and conflict resolution.

He is the Director of the Real Love Corrections Program, an organization that has worked with prisoners all over the United States.

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